She Doesn't Need You to Be the Nice Guy

She doesn’t need you to be the “nice guy.” She doesn’t need you to say I like you or I love you because you feel like that’s what she wants to hear. She doesn’t need you to do things because it’s the “right thing to do.”

She wants you to do things because of your feelings for her. She wants your affection to be something fluid and effortless, not built around your need to be the nice guy, the good guy. 

She doesn’t need you to lay next to her after sleeping together, lovingly touching her body, putting her hand on your heart, running your fingers gently through her hair. She doesn’t need texts the morning after. She doesn’t need you to hold her hand. She wants this, but only if you genuinely want her. Only if it’s out of real affection, not because you feel like that’s what the “appropriate” thing to do in the moment is. Not because you feel like that’s what she wants. 

She wants to be the girl who makes you feel alive, understood, excited to be alive and excited to spend time with her. She wants to be the girl who makes you feel free, who pushes you to be the best you. She wants to be the one who challenges you, who shows you how beautiful life can be. She wants to lay in your arms knowing that it’s just as much bliss to you. She wants to be the one you give all of yourself to. 

She wants you to make her feel special, but not with some grand gesture you saw in a movie. She doesn’t need you to do anything because you feel like that’s what you’re suppose to do. She doesn’t want your money or the things you can do for her. She doesn’t need you to sweep her off her feet because she’s gorgeous and you need it for your ego. She wants you to do things for her because she’s special to you. She needs the romance, but something that is romantic to just the two of you. 

She wants you to like her so much that you’ll fight for what you have. Not because you don’t want to be alone. Not because you miss affection or miss sleeping alone. She doesn’t need you to stay with her because you’re afraid of hurting her, afraid for her to hate you or afraid of looking like the asshole. She wants you to fight for her because she gives you a feeling that no one else could so far. She wants you to fight for her because you want to stay, because life without her is dimmer and nothing is quite the same. 

You see, you have it all wrong - she doesn’t need you to do anything for the sake of being nice. She needs you to be real - she can handle it. 

She’s sensitive but strong, kind but fiery, complicated but loving, and she will never, ever want you if you don’t really want to be there. 

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