This is How Your Future Wife Wants to be Loved

“For many, love is a two-sided coin. It can strengthen or stifle, expand or enfeeble, perfect or pauperize. When love is returned, we soar. We are taken to heights unseen, where it delights, invigorates, and beautifies. When love is spurned, we feel crippled, disconsolate, and bereaved. Polish the coin and you will see only requited love on both sides. I was destined to love you and I will belong to you forever.”  ―Colleen Houck

You’ve found someone who's exactly right for you. Do you know how fucking rare that is? Anyone can find someone that’s perfect, that’s easy. But you don’t want perfect. Perfect is boring. Perfect doesn’t satisfy your scars. It doesn’t satisfy that magic inside of you, that little bit of crazy that was always searching for the perfect fit. But the imperfect perfect fit. Someone who's the right flavor of wrong, the beautiful soul who matches your crazy in just the right way ― that comes once in a lifetime. 

Don’t ever take it for granted. Don’t ever take her for granted. We are given that one special person to get through this crazy life with ―  don’t screw it up. Choose her and love her. The way she deserves to be loved. The love you have is rare - it’s not a two-sided coin. When she’s mad at you, she still loves you. When you mess up, she still loves you. When you’re going through hard times, when there’s uncertainty - she loves you, never forget that. Your love won’t ever die - unless you let it. 

You know deep down, you love her. That’s not enough. She has to know it. You have to show her, make her feel it. It’s not enough to think it. Don’t ever let your past, your pride, your demons, your selfishness, the fact that you’re weak or scared, be a validation to stop fighting for it, making an effort for it. You’re enigmatic and so is she; it’s never an excuse to stop appreciating each other. 

Spoil her with your love. She doesn’t want gifts as a replacement for your time. Taker her somewhere she’s always wanted to go. She wants to go on crazy adventures, to be taught something new. She wants to tell you things that she’s never told anyone, hold her hand and listen. Hold it while it’s damp and tell her it's okay. Someone like this girl, who’s so raw and unfiltered, who bares her whole soul to you, walls coming down that she spent years crafting, that’s everything in this world. It’s your duty to protect her heart, to never hurt her, to never lie to her. Don’t ever risk losing her for anything. I promise you you’ll regret it for the rest of your life. 

It won’t be a fairy tale. That’s not what real love is. Love is looking at a person and thinking, this is the problem I want to have. You can find anyone to dine out at a five-star restaurants with. You can buy flowers for anyone. You can find anyone to fall for your charm; you can have fun with anyone. It’s so easy. But easy will never satisfy you.

There’s only one girl who you have fireworks with. There’s only one girl who sees you - in your most unfiltered, vulnerable state. She sees all the parts of yourself that you hate - she loves them. There’s only one girl in the world who you’ve given all of yourself to. PDA is so easy - but to find the girl who you can give that look across the table while sharing an inside joke, private smirks or goofy faces when you make eye contact contact across the room at a party, that’s fucking love.

To find a girl who can laugh at your jokes is easy. To find a girl who can make you laugh in the most serious and inappropriate situations, that comes around once. That’s your future wife. Don’t ever risk losing that. If there's anything in the world that you need to do right, it's loving her.