To Those Who Are Broken Because Love Wasn't Enough

Love is a tricky thing. We don’t choose who we love - in a way it chooses us. We don’t really know exactly when or how it happens, but somewhere in between that intense eye contact and feeling like someone just gets you in this world, you crash into them fully and never look back.

See before you knew what was happening it happened all at once. Love has a life of its own - it captures you so tightly, it’s ferocious grip on your emotions like you’ve never experienced before. Love doesn’t know religion or geography, time or age. It doesn’t care about whether it’s convenient for you, or whether the person is even compatible with you. The heart wants what it wants. 

More often than not, the greatest love stories are messy - and almost always, love is not enough. 

I know that the real world caught up with you. Love didn’t care about anything - but love is irrational. Unfortunately, we live in a world governed by rationality, and while you managed to make it work for a while, reality caught up with you.

Not too long into your magic, things started to turn. The fireworks combusted, leaving you burned and confused. You wanted it so badly that you thought there was a logical solution to working out your differences. But there wasn’t.

While your connection is eternal - you realized that physically being with each other may not be. Your hearts kept it simple - but your minds were another story. When two people are young, they still have so much to discover about themselves: who they are, what they want - they have to grow fully into their own wrongness. No matter how much you might love someone, if you don’t first run up against your deepest demons and conquer them, you will not be ready for a lifelong commitment. 

And you both have to be ready.

And even if you’re completely ready - you have to be compatible. Some people don't work out together. They have habits or beliefs that make it impossible to co-habit with the person they love. It's a sad truth, but a truth, nonetheless. You might be in love with every fiber of your being, but remember, love isn’t enough. Two people have to function together. They have to coexist and it can’t be toxic. 

Sometimes love gets too intense. Sometimes a relationship is so emotional that it challenges and brings things out in you that you didn’t even know existed. The thing about a soulmate is that they come into your life so they can challenge, awaken and stir different parts of you in order for you to change your life. Their purpose is to tear down your walls and smack you awake rather than give you a happily ever after

They are probably the most important person you'll ever meet. But sometimes living with a soulmate forever is just too painful.

I know when someone touches your heart, they will infinitely be there. I know that you feel in sync with each other even when you are not physically together. 

I know that right now you feel helpless, broken, you feel so out of control. But I promise you, your heart is still beating and you will love again.

You’re going to be okay. Often, life gives us what we need over what we want. And I promise you, there is always a reason for why we didn't get our happily ever afters with the one we love so damn much. 


Anna Bashkova

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