I'm going to tell you a secret: no one knows what they're doing. We're just too afraid to admit it. I don't care if you're 26 or 28 or 34. I don't care if you're over 35 - we’re all lost. I don't know why we’re so scared to admit that.

I don't know who said that you have to have it all figured out by a certain age. I don't know why the age 23 has a monopoly of being lost - of struggles, pain, and confusion. I just turned 26 and I feel like I've never been more lost.

The truth is, life is not a straight line. There is no magical age that you turn where you suddenly go, "oh I’m not lost anymore.” Where suddenly everything clicks, a light bulb goes off in your head and you know what you’re doing. No. The path is very different for everyone. No path is better than the other. Life is not made up of these milestones that we have to cross by a certain age. We don't even have to cross them at all if it’s not what we innately desire. Because I’m sure of one thing, and that’s that you will not find yourself by listening to the concept of how things “should be.”

Some of the most happy and influential people in the world were completely lost after 26 - broke, not sure what they wanted out of life, not sure of their place in the world and not really sure of anything. You are allowed the time to find yourself. And after you've found yourself, you are allowed to get lost again and have to discover yourself all over again. There are no rules.

People are complicated and we are ever changing - we constantly have to transform, create and reinvent ourselves; and that is what makes life worth it.

And let me tell you something: 30, is still young. You're just beginning your life and I think we often forget that. You still have so many things in front of you, and so many things you have to experience; so much you must do to really face your demons and see all that perfection in your imperfections.

So don't let anyone tell you that if you're over 26 and lost there's something wrong with you. The people who say that don't know they're lost themselves. We are all just trying to figure out this whole life ordeal and none of us know what we're doing - some of us are just better at pretending than others.

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