I Flat-Out Refuse to Get Married (Unless It’s Like This)
/We say marriage is programmed into our brains as the ultimate accomplishment, we say it’s outdated, sensationalized, because maybe it is, but maybe we just need to reinvent it. Maybe marriage in our modern age should not be settling down with someone, but taking off with someone - not just physically, but emotionally. Maybe it’s finding that person who you want to build yourself up with, not let yourself go now that you “have” them.
Maybe marriage is building up each other so high that we forget that we’re broken. Diving head first into life together because we inspire each other to get every single thing we want out of this life. Waiting for that person, not fast tracking stuff with the wrong one. Maybe marriage is still there, we just don’t know what it looks like now.
I don’t want my marriage to be perfect - I don’t want to compare it to anything other than what I innately desire. I will not live it for others. I will not try to measure up to something that doesn’t even exist - I don’t care about the perfect, shiny, happy pictures. I won’t need to write statuses about how happy I am because when I will get married, I will do it for me. I want a life with someone that does not need the validation of likes, favorites, comments, upvotes. I want my partner’s eyes to flicker with passion when I walk into a room, and I don’t need to tweet 140 characters about it to prove that it’s there.
I will not marry anyone that makes me feel like I’m this obligation, like our marriage is an obligation. I hear the way other guys talk about their wives when they’re not around, like their wife is this big anchor to all of the fun they would otherwise be having. No. The person that I will choose to spend the rest of my life with, is the person who I will strap on a backpack with, head to the airport with, and take off.
The person who I will laugh till I cry in cities where life is around every corner. The person who gives me a fresh pair of eyes to see it all. We will get lost in foreign cities and fall in love over and over again in corners of the world that make you feel like you’re alive for the first time. When I find that connection, a true connection, I want to live my life with that person. Innovate my own life, not the life that is expected of me when I’m married. I couldn’t live a “normal” life if I tried.
