You Gave Them Everything You Had and You're Allowed to Move Forward

You’re allowed to leave any friendship that is no longer lifting you up. You are allowed to leave any relationship that is causing you pain over and over again, even if at times they lift you up so high.

No matter how deeply you might love them, you’re allowed to move forward. You might be thinking that you didn’t try hard enough. You might be thinking that you could have given more. You might be scared to leave because you’re afraid that no one will look at you like that again, that no one will touch your soul so heavily, that no one will love all of you like that again, understand you like that. But I promise you, they will. 

When we give someone our heart, it’s so hard to move forward when things aren’t working out. We start second guessing ourselves: Maybe I shouldn’t have said that. Maybe I’m overreacting. Maybe I was too jealous, too harsh, too difficult. 

When we love someone, we’ll do anything to make it work. You may be burned and confused, questioning everything. You think you could have done things differently. You think that if you could do things over again, you would make it work. But the truth is, you gave it everything you had. And I promise you, when someone is selfish, when someone has destroyed you and your happiness once - they will always, always do it again. There is no logical solution except to move forward

You’re allowed to let go of your pain. Sometimes we don’t want to let go of our pain because it’s the only thing still attaching us to someone - let go of your pain and you let go of them, sometimes we’re not ready for that. But you cannot move forward with your life with one foot on the brakes. 

Allow yourself to let go. Allow yourself to move forward. Your heart may be heavy with pain and regrets but I promise you, you gave it everything you had and that’s all you can ever do. 

Leaving doesn’t mean you’re giving up or quitting. When it’s not working, when your heart keeps breaking, when you’re constantly unsatisfied, frustrated, upset, leaving is the best thing you can do for yourself. Your time and your heart are too precious, and you deserve more.

If you aren’t aware of it, you can hold on to the past for a long time. But the energy it takes to hang on to the past will hold you back from living your life fully. When your heart is broken open, new light gets in. More extraordinary light. Move forward. Embrace it.


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