If You Say You Love Her, This Is What She Deserves

She’s strong, independent - she can make it on her own. But that doesn’t mean she doesn’t want you. That doesn’t mean she doesn’t need you to appreciate her every day.

If you say you love her, never take her love for granted. Never think you have her, even though her heart is yours. Never stop trying to woo her. Never stop trying to make her laugh. Never stop making an effort to make her feel special like you did when you first started dating. 

I don’t care if you’ve been dating for weeks or for decades. I don’t care how many other ‘options’ you have. She deserves someone who realizes her worth -  someone who never leaves when they’re at their best. Someone who can get anyone they want but still chooses her. She deserves someone who doesn’t even care about exploring all these other ‘options’ because they know that no one even comes close.

Never stop flirting with her. Never stop making an effort to look good for her. Never stop making an effort to satisfy her. She deserves someone who loves every inch of her body. Every scar. Never stop nurturing her, no matter how tough she appears. She'll push you away at times - fight through her walls and let her know you're not going anywhere. She'll do the same for you. 

It’s not the thought that counts. The feelings are not enough. It’s the actual execution that matters: Showing up for her when she needs you. Making an effort to text her back and being completely open with her, no matter what the truth is. Putting on that sexy cologne you know she loves. Clothing her with your words when she feels naked revealing her vulnerabilities. Being patient with her; making her feel safe. Planning dates and adventures that make her feel excited - it doesn't matter how big they are, it's the fact that you're planning something that makes her feel special, that's unique to just the two of you. 

When you said you loved her, she opened up her heart. She’s more scared than you know, but she thinks you’re worth it. She deserves someone who makes her believe that some people can stay. Don’t be too stubborn to compromise. You know this girl is special, so don’t give her a reason to doubt your love; don’t give her reasons not to trust you. 

This is the girl who has made you a better person - she doesn’t care what you’ve done in the past or who you used to be. This is the girl who will never leave no matter how dark it gets, no matter how many gritty things you reveal, no matter how many edges you have, no matter how difficult it might get. She chooses you everyday - no matter how many people are trying to get her attention. No matter how many other options she has. She doesn’t need to explore any of them to realize you are one of a kind and your connection is once in a lifetime. She makes an effort for you, always. She deserves someone who treats her the same way.

I’m not saying this is going to be easy. You’re two headstrong individuals and at times it’s going to be a challenge. But no one will make you feel as much love or passion. No one will change your life more. 

If you say you love her, never take her for granted. Because no matter how much she loves you, she won’t put up with not getting what she deserves. And if she leaves, you are the one who will suffer the most.